There are many reasons why your home may not feel as peaceful as you would like it to. Let’s see if we can dispel some of the obstacles that stand in your way when it comes to having the peaceful home that you have been dreaming about.
More families are living in combined households nowadays creating crowded quarters, chaos and dissention.
Kids are doubling up in their rooms, friends and family members may need a helping hand a temporary place to stay, or maybe your family has outgrown your house but to make ends meet you’ve decided to stick-it-out until your economical situation changes or you have the down payment saved for a larger house.
Whether temporary or permanent there are ways to have a peaceful home while you ride this wave of life.
A lot can be said about teaching the children self-discipline, self sufficiency, and respect for self and others, especially others possessions. These are daily behaviors that take practice and guidance starting at a young age.
One person should not be responsible for all of the cooking, cleaning and shopping when each person is doing their part and helping to carry the load.
For our purposes, I will assume that the above topics of discipline and respect are under control with perhaps an occasional disagreement.
The areas that I will focus on for the purpose of bringing more peace into the home will deal primarily with how your space is being utilized.
There was a time, not too long ago that my teenage grandson came to live with me.
You might say we did a family intervention. His sophomore year of high school report card was showing up as a fail and his dad, my son, and I were afraid that he was slipping through the cracks.
We flew him up to Sacramento from Los Angeles in order to help him gain a better footing on his life and studies.
My sister agreed to stay on in my home to provide the discipline and tutoring that he needed. She had been an English teacher and an honor student and was now retired.
My son was recently relocated from another city and had just started a new job needing a temporary place to stay.
I was working full time and had just signed a lease on a two-bedroom condo.
Suddenly, within a two month period, we were a family of four sharing a two bedroom condo!
Maybe you can relate to my story.
Life doesn’t always show up exactly as we had planned it but there’s no reason why we can’t make the most of it.
Oft times, more people means more stuff!
Clearing clutter, excess clothes, toys, furniture, establishing a regular cleaning routine, specific duties, a day when everyone cleans, a list of chores, and creating storage are essentials are paramount. Dressers, closets, armoires cabinets, and shelves can help reduce the load by providing a place to store things.
#1 Create Zones ~ creating zones in each room is of utmost importance.
- Reassess each room for function.
- A place for eating – dining room spaces can double as a study area or become a bedroom.
- A place for study – can you add a desk to the entry way or a breakfast nook, or under the stairs?
- A comfy chair with a small table and a light for reading can provide an escape for someone who needs a little alone time.
- One end of a room can become a play area for young children.
- A small table and chair by a window to enjoy a cup of tea.
Some rooms may have to do double duty. By creating zones, your space will be organized and provide special areas for certain tasks and needs.
#2 Colors ~ We are affected by color on a subliminal level
- A stark white room with a lot of glare can create tension as the chi or energy has no where to rest.
- Too many mirrors in a room can be constantly bouncing energy around and creating distractions.
- A too dark room can soak up energy and create stagnation, zapping your energy.
- Hot colors like red, orange, and yellow will bring warmth into the room, but if overdone can create tension, causing more argument, fighting and unease.
- Hot colors in the dining room will increase your appetite. Think about some of your fast food restaurants that are decorated in those colors. If you were hoping to lose weight ditch the hot colors!
- Cooler colors like green, blue, and lavender will stimulate a feeling of cool water, lush green forests, and rainfall. Introduce these colors into a room where you want to experience more calm, restful periods.
- Browns, grays, and neutral tones will help you feel more grounded, down to earth, and centered.
Finding the perfect balance is the key to using color in the home. Play around with it until it feels just right for you.
#3 Create a focal point in each room.
- What do you see when you enter each room?
- A focal point is the area that the room is centered on. It creates the mood of the room and offers the eye a place to rest.
- In the living room it can be the fireplace, a large picture or gallery wall, an entertainment center or a picture window.
- How can you improve on this area?
- In the bedroom, it’s usually the bed. A headboard will give you the needed support while sleeping and will support your back if you want to sit up in bed and read, write in your journal, or meditate.
- The dining room is usually an area that can house more storage like a bookcase, armoire, hutch or buffet. In my home, the dining room is also the library where I store my books. In the living room my television sits on my buffet. It’s a big open floor plan, and I’ve made the most of some of my favorite pieces of furniture so that they serve my family’s needs for storage and use of the space.
- Some people have used their formal dining room as an extra bedroom, an office, hobby room, etc. A decorative screen or curtain can help where privacy is a concern.
- A big picture window can be made the focal point by adding fabric panels, flanking the sides with tall plants, and adding artwork to help it create a statement.
A focal point will give the room purpose.
#4 Uplifting Word signs and pictures will give gentle reminders to “be kind”, will give the eye another place to rest.
- Choose things that make you feel good.
- Choose colors and images that you love to look at.
Please don’t disregard the impact that just a simple word sign can have on a person’s inner climate!
#5 Plants and flowers make great “pets” and it’s a two-way benefit when family members care for plants.
- Not only do they clean the air, but they bring a homey vibe to the room.
- Speaking of “pets”. A resting place for your critters in an out of the way area can give them a sense of family. They are sensitive creatures and will pick up on the extra energy of more people in the home and could become agitated.
- A fresh herb garden in the window sill will provide some aromatherapy with it’s fragrance, sending out a calming vibration.
Plants and flowers will bring beauty into your home and that’s a wonderful thing!
#6 Cooking and eating together as a group or family can be a great stress relief by giving you an opportunity to gather together as a group, catch up on the news of the day, spend some time in prayer, all while enjoying a meal together.
- Bringing a family meal together requires team work, is a labor of love, connects the group, and helps each member bond.
- Let the kids set the table, help with the dishes, and lead the family in prayer.
- One person should not be the chief cook and bottle washer.
In a peaceful home, the dinner table is never an appropriate place to dole out punishment, but should be used for uplifting conversations, encouragement, and the gentle training of good manners and respect.
#7 House Cleansings
- Immediately after cleaning a room is a good time to burn sage or insense or spray the room with a mixture of 1/2 water, 1/2 rubbing alcohol, and 30 drops of your favorite essential oil ( mixed in a bottle of course.)
- Lavender, chamomile, Rose, and Geranium are soothing scents.
- Orange, Eucalyptus, tea tree oil and cedar are uplifting scents to try, and will help dispel any dust mites or no-seeums that might be lurking.
- A Himalayan salt lamp will create a calm atmosphere and a few drops f essential oil on it will warm up the room with fragrance.
- Palo santo s a wonderful calming fragrance to try.
- I like to burn sage, or palo santo, or spray the room with my essential oil mix after tension and arguments have taken place in order to shift the energy of the room and return the peaceful vibes.
- Opening the windows and doors and sweeping and vacuuming a room can also bring a fresh perspective into a room.
Dirt and grime, clutter, bad smells, and disagreements can be a serious problem if you want a peaceful home. Do your best to keep these at a minimum.
- Crystals in the home are becoming more popular because they work with us on an esoteric level to help raise our vibration and the peaceful vibes in the home.
- Crystal clusters can increase the energy in a dreary corner.
- Polished stones make a pretty display in a bowl or used as a grid to line the sunny window sills.
- Before placing your crystals give them a bath under running water and let them soak in a sea salt bath over night. Then you can place them in a sunny window or under the moonlight to recharge.
- Repeat this cleansing ritual every 1 – 4 weeks by ending with an affirmation to set the positive intentions in the stone. It can be something as simple as asking them to bring more peace into your home and dispel any darkness.
- Your gemstones work hard for you by soaking up and dispelling a lot of negative energy while bringing their vibrant energy and peaceful demeanor into your dwelling.
Treat your gemstones with respect by keeping them clean and sparkling.
- Music can change the mood of a room faster than anything.
- Think of the music that was played at some of your favorite parties.
- Turn off the TV and put on some soft tunes that will bring a gentle healing effect. I love some good piano like David Lanz, or Jim Brickman, or songs from my era like Carly Simon, and Earth, Wind and Fire. I’m sure you have your favorites. Okay, howabout Jason Meraz?
Turn off the TV, the News that keeps repeating all of the bad news, and bring in the music!
#10 Spend more time outdoors
- When there are a lot of people living together, sometimes the best solution is to spend more time outdoors.
- Go for walks
- Plant a garden
- send the kids outside to play
- spend some time at the local library
- Go to your favorite coffee shop that offers Wi-Fi
- Volunteer at your local charity
All of these things have worked for me and my family to keep peace in our home when the living situation is tight.
What has worked for you? I’d love to hear your comments.